We have just signed up for our biggest mountain to climb yet. About three weeks ago, during a routine visit we found out that even though Anthony has just gone off his feet less than 6 months ago and has received aggressive care, he is one of the rare cases where his spine has curved to a dangerous degree virtually overnight. In DMD, due to the weakness in the back combined with our boys old peoples bone density, it is something you have to watch for vigilantly as it greatly impacts lung and heart function. When a spine becomes curved more than 25%, we typically start discussions regarding a surgery to correct it. When the spine reaches 50% it becomes a very dangerous decision and the odds of life threatening risks are greatly increased. We found out Anthony is at 40%.
After getting over the shock, horror, denial and anger…I began researching. I spent a week gathering resources and researching options. After much due diligence, just before the holidays we interviewed the lead surgeon that will be doing Anthony’s surgery…. Dr. Schrader @ Phoenix Children’s Hospital.
The risks are very intense and although we are very educated and aware, I think they are better left off. There is no denial, just a decision to avoid giving certain possibilities more power. We are however, taking every precaution and are putting together an all-star team. There will be two orthopedic surgeons working in tandem to get him off the table as fast as possible to minimize complications. There will be our trusted pulmonologist, Dr. Woodward, and his team, to get him off the ventilator as soon as we can after. There will be an amazing cardiologist Dr. Ellsworth on standby to monitor his heart the whole time. The surgery will take about 5 hours. He is expected to be in ICU for a few days if all goes well, in the hospital a week or so after that and then up to two months at home.
When we visited the Dr. I tried to get Antony to go for a ride with one of the staff and he said no. He wanted to hear. I tried to argue and he looked at me and DeeDee and said, I want to hear the questions and be in the discussions. The Dr. did a great job of being sensitive but he still listened to things no kid should ever have to hear and worry about. Later he said he was scared. I said, yes buddy. It’s pretty scary. But we are going to rock this like we do everything else. He asked “Mom can I say a bad word?” I said “Sure buddy.” He said, “yea… I’m kind of a bad ass”. Yes, AC you sure are. You are kind of a bad-ass.
And of course his first concern was hiking and traveling. I assured him that was our new focus, to get him back in that hiking chair as soon as we can (he has his sights set on Humphrey’s Peak in Flagstaff and Yosemite after that). The surgery is currently scheduled for March 11th however they are looking for a sooner date if possible. Although that’s a bit far out for my comfort, there is a lot of work we need to be doing from now until then to prep AC for the best possible outcome.
I could go on about how unfair this is….how terrified and pissed I am. But I know in my heart the truth. Life yields suffering. We all have it. It comes in many shapes and forms and for every person I know who hasn’t had this painful of a trial in their life; I know so many more that have. I don’t feel especially picked on by the universe nor do I necessarily think that God chose us for some reason. I simply feel it is what it is. We are going to be very challenged and we are going to grow because of it. And I think that there will be times much like on the trail where we just don’t think we can take another step. And then we will. And we will take another after that. Because that’s just what we do.
And in the end, there will be stories of fear, ugliness and hardship. But I think there will be even more of love: big, huge, break your heart wide-open kind of love. This may just be our finest hour. And when we look back at the path behind us, and we are on the other side, we will hopefully have some awe, faith and compassion in our hearts that wasn’t there before. But I guess we will see. I guess that’s why it’s called an adventure.
I will keep you updated. In the meantime, when you think of us, send us some light and love for a safe journey…. because it does help. We feel every bit of it. And as we learned in the Canyon, we can't do this alone.
